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Ever been told that writing is a waste of time? I mean it’s fine to do it on the side, so long as you focus on more serious pursuits. Right?

That’s what I was told too and for years I believed it. As it turns out, that advice was a load of BS.

Now I know that creative writing is the single most useful skill I could have learnt.

 

Let me tell you the story of how I ended up writing for a living.

 

At the age of 18, I graduated from high school, with top grades which, according to the ranking-obsessed Australian university entrance system, would have let me into just about any degree in any university of my choice.

The day after the grades were announced I was in the supermarket with my Mum.

A teacher walked up to us to offer her congratulations.

She turned to me and said: “So what’s it going to be then Marianne? Medicine or Law?”

I shook my head, smiled, and said “neither. I’m going to do an Arts degree. I want to read novels”.

And that’s what I did.

Once at university I took a degree that let me pick and choose stuff I was interested in, creating my own education from a cornucopia (told you I was an English Lit major) of subjects: sociology, psychology, linguistics, film, English, history, and creative writing.

Creative writing was the biggest luxury in that list – it seemed a ridiculous addition to a degree, even for me. It wasn’t like I was going to become a published author or anything.

My friend’s mother warned me in all seriousness “if you were going to write a book you’d have done it by now”. I was 18 so I believed her.

No, I didn’t take creative writing classes out of some desire to write the definitive novel of our time. I just liked writing and wanted to get better at it. I figured it would be a relief from the more serious academic subjects on my schedule.

So I hunkered down, worked hard (again) and entered the university world head on.

4 years later, I graduated with a first class degree, top of my year, president of the debate society and (and this is the kicker) fully qualified to flip burgers for a living.

Turns out an Arts degree isn’t the top of the employability lists. Who’d have thought it?

For a while there I was regretting that decision to take creative writing classes when I could have used that time to use a real skill.

 

Of course this is not where the story ends. I promised you the story of how writing lead to a real living.

Let’s talk about that part next.

 

How reading novels can be your best career move

 

Fastforward a few years and I’d talked my way into a grown-up corporate career, and worked with some of the biggest name companies in the world (of course, I wasn’t writing for a living. There’s no money in writing, right?).

Then a few more years later, I found myself at the helm of a new business.

Suddenly I had to communicate to a whole new audience of people – most of whom didn’t even know who I was.

So I did the only thing I knew how.

 

I sat down, with a clean piece of paper, picked up a pen and started to write them a story.

Then I wrote another.

I wrote about them. I wrote about me. I wrote about people like us: about how it feels to be like us.

I said those things that all of us think, but that only a storyteller is allowed to say.

There were moments I thought “does anyone want to hear that? Can I really say that?” and every one of those moments were the most powerful stories.

Above all, I just wrote.

 

Now, my business is based on writing.

Every connection I have made, every client, every opportunity (and every cent) has come via my writing. Period.

The single most useful part of my education was the semester where I sat in that creative writing class, my favourite author in front of me taking a guest seminar.

She sat at the head of our round seminar table, short grey hair clipped to perfection. Pursing her lips at our boorish undergraduate attempts at prose:

“It’s not real”, she said, shaking her head, “your writing has to be real.”

“So you lost your bag on the bus and you were annoyed. What does that mean?

I want to hear about your red shoes, the ones with the scuff mark, that pinched your left heel. I want to hear that you were wearing then on the day you lost your bag on the bus.

I want to hear about how you were thinking more about the shoe and the scuff mark than the lost bag and how you wondered if you could go home and change before going to the police station to report your bag and how you knew that was messed up at the time but that’s just the way it was.

I want to hear about the imperfections of your experience, not the surface of the story.”

 

She was right. Read the best novels, or the most gripping magazine articles, or that blog post that stays with you, and you’ll see – it’s not the plot or ideas that connect with you, it’s the red shoes pinching your heel on a hot day.

That’s a lesson I use every day.

 

Here’s why:

Ever had that moment at a networking event, the one where you’ve just shaken hands with Pete, or Mark, or Roy  - whatever his name he’s the balding man in the checked shirt who always shows up to these things.

Anyway. You’re in the first minute of telling Roy what you do… and you already know he doesn’t care.

It’s uncomfortable – partly because you didn’t pee before walking in you’ve drunk too much tea and now you’re trapped for at least another 5 minutes in a conversation about accounts – but mostly it’s uncomfortable because you know Roy should care.

What you’re saying has value and if only he got your message then you could help each other.

But even though he is nodding with that polite half smile, you know he doesn’t care and he wishes he was speaking to someone else.

If you run a business, you need people to care.

If people don’t care what you do, people don’t show up, people don’t buy, and you don’t have a business.

This is the problem:

Roy doesn’t care about you

Sorry. Sure, he heard your tale of ‘this is what I do and who it helps and why it’s important’ but he didn’t have a reason to care. Here’s why:

  • You don’t get people to care by listing features of your service.
  • You don’t get people to care by explaining and preaching reasons this is important.
  • You don’t get people to care by speaking in business-speak platitudes.
  • You don’t get people to care because your business card border is a slightly darker shade of blue this time
  • You don’t get people to care by copying another person’s style and hoping ‘that works’.

You get people to care by sharing a story that they already care about.

A story about them.

The natural language of humans is ‘story’.

That’s what humans have done since we came down from the trees. Told stories.

If your business is going to rely on humans (and it will), then show them some respect and speak their language.

Speak the human language of stories – stories as real as that day you got on the bus with the scuffed red shoe and the pinched heel. This isn’t about writing the definitive novel of our time. It’s about you, where you are now, connecting with the people you need to reach.

 

Writing isn’t a waste of time

It’s the most powerful way to communicate the message you care about.

You don’t need a writing degree. You don’t need anyone’s permission. You don’t need an expensive computer.

I know you want people to care about what you do, so forget sticking up ads or adjusting your logo or browsing competitors’ websites. Start with what matters: your people, and you, and the stories you have to share.

Make them real, make them true, make them full of the things you wanted to say to them… but never thought you were allowed to speak.

Above all, start writing.

Now.

 

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Hello gorgeous.

I want you to know something. Yes, starting your own business is wonderful. You wake up when you want, work from where you want and never have to sit through a boring-ass ‘weekly planning meeting’ EVER AGAIN. Rocking.

However. This freedom does not come on a platter. You don’t wake up one and go ‘oh I seem to have stumbled on the perfect life. Ho ho. Tea and toast, Jeeves’.

(Because that’s totally what my mornings look like. Ahem)

So let’s take a down-and-dirty look at what really goes on in a fledgling business. This isn’t a negative article, it’s just the less sexy bits that get left out of the ‘how I made it stories’. I think you deserve to know it all so today I’m sharing these 9 truths with you.

The below is your psychic ball to know what’s up ahead so you can be ready to ride through this messy, beautiful journey and make your free range life happen. FOR REAL.

Let’s get to it:

 

1. The business you start with won’t be the one you end up with.

The first version of your idea will be wrong. People won’t want it, or you won’t want to do it. More than likely:

Your first website won’t be your last

Neither will your first brand name

And that’s a good thing.

Your business is a living creature, not a statue. Until you’re in the field it’s hard to know what it’s really like to live with, and when you get there you’ll soon learn what you need to change. Sometimes the answer is ‘almost everything’.

So don’t spend too much on that first logo.

 

2. You will want to quit

More than once you will think you have made a huge mistake even starting this.

You will think you were crazy for even contemplating that you could run a business.

You’ll think you’re an imposter.

That’s when you know you’re on to something good.

 

3. Your family and friends won’t get it

Start your business and more than likely:

Aunt Maude will think you made a mistake.

Your buddy Sam won’t hold back letting you know how many businesses fail.

Others in your life will be ‘supportive’ but never actually understand what you do.

Many will miss the days they could put you into a box and say “she’s a lawyer”.

At least some of your friendship groups will change.

Honey let’s get real here. What is more important: your happiness every day, or someone else’s mild discomfort at introducing you at weddings? Sticking with the friends who count or the ones who only empathise because you both hate what you do? Following the beige army’s footsteps or living your real life? (you only get the one, you know)

Isn’t escaping from a box that doesn’t fit precisely the reason you are here?

 

4. There’s no such thing as an overnight success

You will work your butt off to get your first 10 clients. They will be the hardest ones to get.

You might look at a successful person in your field and say “I want what they have… but without doing the graft that let them achieve that”. They will look back at you and say “good luck, and if you find that easy button let us know”.

What counts is DOING (smartly). You can learn all the strategies in the world but unless you DO them they are worth nothing.

The overnight successes out there?

I admit it, they were ‘made overnight’: over many, many nights of late toil. With coffee and the company of streetlights.

They wanted to quit, they thought they made a mistake but they kept going and going until one day someone said “hey you’re an overnight success, I wish I could be as lucky as you!” (you can be, by the way. Just do the above.)

 

5. Your number of Twitter followers doesn’t count

There are a lot of things you can buy to look like  a business: you can rent an office, get good business cards, have a nice website made up by a hot designer, and yes you can even ‘buy’ Twitter followers and Facebook fans.

There might be good reasons for you to do all of these things. I’m not judging. However. None of these are enough on their own. You can easily sit in your office with nice cards, 10,000 followers and a cutting edge website… with no clients and no money. A business ‘shell’ is not a business.

It is one thing to build something that looks like a business. It is another to build that moment of magic where people love what you do, get it, and hand you money to do it some more.

Know the difference.

 

6. No one owes you a paycheque

I once heard someone say “no one is buying my ebook. I wrote it and created a website but no one is buying. I put so much time and effort into it already, I shouldn’t have to put any more into promoting it!”

Yes, you should. You are not an employee.

No one owes you a paycheque. No one owes you their money. No one owes you their attention.

It’s up to you to make your offer worth their attention, worth their money and worth a paycheque.

Showing up to work is not enough.

The value you bring is not just the content or the service. A huge whack of your value is presenting what you offer so GET IT. Don’t set yourself up to be ignored as one of the shouting hordes, but create an environment so people WANT what you have on the table. Desperately. Enough to pay for it, now.

Learning how to sell is 50% of the journey (so don’t waste all your start up time on creating a product you have no idea how to communicate and waiting for a  paycheque). Instead, live in your clients’ heads. Learn how to show them the value of what you do so that they want it, really want it, and pay to prove it too.

 

7. It’s not all cocktail parties and CEO moments. 

In the early days you will do it all. Forget the glamour of ‘having your own business’. For the first few months that just means “I sweep the floors, as well as meet the clients”.

Later you can (and should) outsource the parts you don’t love. But if you outsource something before you understand it, you’ll find it slide to a halt all too soon.

The only way to understand something? Do it yourself, first time round. Keep notes on how you did it and the mistakes you made and what you learnt. Then pass it on. Of course, by then you’ll be taking control and acting like a free range human.

You will also be handy with a broom.

 

8. Your dream life does not come with your dream business

You’re not doing this just to ‘be an entrepreneur’ (you’d be reading another blog if you were).

You’re doing this for a reason: to build a life that you love. To spend time with the people and places that mean something to you. You have a vision of what you want to contribute to the world, of doing something that makes you come alive every day, and your business is your vehicle to get it.

Never lose sight of that. That groundwork, knowing what you’re in this for, is crucial.

If you just ‘build a business’ without considering ‘you’, then you’ll end up in a cage of your own making. This time there will be no boss to blame.

Getting free is a conscious decision, not a gift that comes with self employment or a job title.

More important than just “I have a business” is sticking true to what you want and crafting each element of your business to suit you and your life.

That takes guts.

You’re not building a business, you’re creating a life. And that, my dear, starts with you.

 

9. You wouldn’t give this up for the world

Once you get into the free range life, you’ll know two things

1) the above is true and

2) you wouldn’t give this up for the world.

The payoff of being your own boss is bigger than a paycheque.

I read some research recently showing that self employed humans are happier than employed humans, and it clicked instantly.

When you are self employed, you get validated every time someone likes you enough to hand over money and buy from you (when did you ever feel that praised by your boss?).You get to do every part of the business you want to (see that chicken logo at the top? I drew him, cause I wanted to). And you get to be YOU every day.

It’s like becoming a grown up for the first time.

You’ll get addicted to this life. And that’s when you know you’ve made it.

 

10. You get to make your own rules.

Hey you’re a free range human! Want to include 10 points when the article asks for 9? Do it. Like this :)

Seriously. I want you to know this honey: the hardest part is understanding, truly understanding, that you make up your own rules. And then grasping that opportunity with both hands.

With no boss to hold you back, and no boss to blame, it’s down to you to make magic happen on your own terms.

To me that is the most wonderful thing in the world.

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Ever heard a story of a ‘career cage escape’ and thought

‘They just got on with it… I’m SO PATHETIC for dithering. I should pull myself together and just make a freaking decision.

Why’s it so hard for ME when they managed it?’

If you’ve ever thought anything like that, or said mean things to yourself for not ‘just figuring it out’, then you need to watch this.

(note: you can watch this without sound… although my favourite song kicks in after the first minute so I’d just crank it up anyway :) )

This is the part most cubicle cage escape stories leave out. And this is the part that makes the biggest difference.

I’d love to hear what you think too – so after watching leave me a comment below, and share it on Facebook or Twitter (below) if you think others would benefit!

 

Credit to the amazing Bernard Fanning for the music playing in this video. The song is ‘Watch Over Me’ and I recommend his whole ‘Tea and Sympathy’ album.

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Today’s message is really important but it’s one a lot of people won’t want you to get. I want to chat with you about some people you and I know (but let’s do it quietly because they won’t like you reading this article :) ).

These people, the ones we both know, are a type that you come across every day (shh, there’s one in the office with you now!). They prefer tradition and routine to innovation and enthusiasm, and think that your dream of a freer, more fulfilled life is a dangerous fantasy best quashed soon.

They are the Beige Army, and they have more of an impact on your life than you realise

The Beige Army are the managers in the office who can’t see the big picture – they prefer to nit pick on the 1% negative instead: “yes well done for launching that project that might change the world, but you didn’t fill in this line in form 30B. Yes, I know it’s a non-essential form, but protocol is important”.

The Beige Army are the people in The King’s Speech who wanted Geoffrey Rush banned from helping the king, because he wasn’t “qualified”. The letters were not there after his name and he was… unorthodox. And foreign. He had to go. No matter about the fact this outspoken incredible man was making more of a difference than anyone else.

The Beige Army are staid, repressed and terrified of change… but that’s not why I have a problem with them.

I have a problem with them because they want you to be that way too.

They wander around the corridors of your office block (and, perhaps, your extended family reunions) judging anyone who does anything outside of their comfort zone.

Should you be so audacious to consider an option (for yourself) that the Beige Army finds challenging to THEIR beliefs, they purse their lips and say: “are you sure that’s wise?”

They furrow their brows and ask: “Why would you want to do that? Why don’t you just get another job?”

It’s not a question – you know that – it’s a statement: what they really mean is:

“If you do that strange thing you will crash and burn and fail and you will be laughed at. People will laugh at you and no one will be on your side and you will end up in the gutter, miserable, hearkening back the golden days when you were safe here, safe with us in this beige existence where nothing changes, ever.”

That’s what the Beige Army wants you think whenever you consider making a change outside of THEIR comfort zone.

The Beige Army speaks loudly and clearly and they come across as unshakable.  They look solid and impenetrable. Very comfortable ruling out other opinions, the Beige folk are not troubled by difference of opinion because in their view, any opinion different to theirs is simply wrong. Venture to voice an alternative perspective and they’ll curl their lips with a little smug sneer and say ‘yes, alright Marianne, certainly’. And ignore you.

 

What is really going on (here’s where I unmask the Beige Army)

Lots of us get scared about our lives:

Are we the person we imagined we’d be? What if this is all there is to life after all?

What if we get it wrong? What if we get it right?

What if it turns out we are not good enough after all?

These are big scary questions.

If you’ve asked yourself any of them, and felt the fear, and admitted to yourself that you were scared…. then you are not a member of the Beige Army.

Lots of us get scared: what’s really evil is that the Beige Army won’t own up to their fear. They pretend that the status quo the right way to be rather than consider anything else, because anything else is too scary to contemplate.

The man in the beige army doesn’t look like a terrified animal but he is. His criticisms of others are his weapon against facing up to his life and his feelings.

He is living a lie: he pretends he is doing the ‘right’ thing; he pretends this so much that he no longer remembers he is pretending. All he knows is that if one of those ‘other’ people who are ‘different’ from him come on his turf, he gets het up and angry.  Righteously so, he thinks, because they are WRONG.

What matters to the Beige person is doing things in the way they have always been done, even if those things make no sense.

Whew! Do I sound angry right now? Heck yes I am. I’m freaking SEETHING here. The reason is, I have just got another email from one of my lovely, lovely fledglings who is brave and beautiful and right on the edge of making a change in her life… only to be brought back to average by the Beige Army. Today she hardly believes in herself, her possibilities, her strengths and she’s miserable and stuck because of someone else’s fears.

I am tired of seeing Free Range fledglings told they are wrong for being who they are. That their dreams are less worthy than ‘fitting in’ and living a crappy flatline life that makes you so unhappy you don’t know where to turn. I’m tired of seeing scared people rule your life.

So this me declaring war on the Beige Army

These people hide right now because they don’t have a name. They mask themselves as ‘normal’. And you know what? It’s hard to do something against what ‘most people do’ and how’ normal people act’ . Most of us don’t want to be ‘odd’ or ‘not quite normal’, do we?

But the Beige Army are not the normal ones. They are the sad, sad repressed folk who live their lives barely feeling anything anymore. They’ve turned off their emotions inside and they want you to do that too. They are not the majority, they are just influential and loud.

So let’s call them out for what they are: the people who say “it’s not possible”, “that’s a bit weird” or “why don’t you just get a job” do not speak for society and they do not speak for you.

They are not the normal people. They are just a group: the Beige Army, and they’re dead scared of getting any bright, lively paints on their bland beige uniform.

How to overcome the Beige Army (your battle plan)

Once you’ve named them for what they are (the ‘Beige Army’, not ‘the normal people’), there are three more things you can do to stop them from stopping you moving forward:

1. KNOW YOU ARE NOT ONE OF THEM

The Beige Army is a big group: mostly because they are so good at influencing others by making you feel small if you act differently. It’s easy to be influenced by that lot and adopt their characteristics (trust me, I’ve been there!).

Here’s the difference between you and them – if you act like a Beige solider you’ll hate yourself a little for it (oh my god I’ve become a bureaucrat!) whereas they pride themselves on being mundane.

Whenever you recognize that in yourself, a moment of difference in attitude, hold on to it, because daring to be different is your shield from their attacks.

2. BE HUMAN

Be enthusiastic and surround yourself with ‘free range’ thinking folk who are too. Displays of passion – be it talking enthusiastically about any topic, or showing emotion – are terrifying to the beige army. They will laugh at it and belittle it “alright, tone it down there darling”, “hmm, getting a bit carried away?”. Passion and authenticity are threats to their bland shell.

So find your true tribe and spend time with them: immerse yourself in their books, their writing, their events, hang out with them and soon you’ll stop seeing the Beige Army as the ‘normal’ ones but as strange creatures to be pitied.

3. THE SECRET WEAPON

Here’s the biggest thing you can do fight them: don’t. The Beige Army are made up of impenetrable people who – in the name of avoiding discomfort – have numbed themselves from feeling.

A Beige person is like a rock: nothing moves them so don’t bother trying.

There is no point trying to convert them, don’t try to push them out of the way or break them down.

Just walk around them.

I’m taking on the Beige Army, but I’m not interested in beating them.

This isn’t about winning an ideological argument with a group of terrified people. It’s about getting around the big, critical, scared blob of a barrier in your way so you can live your own life.

Once you’re on the other side you’ll look back and wonder why they ever had any power over you. And you’ll smile, turn your back on their fear, and walk on forward into your real life.

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